Often a man finds a woman that he loves in one of these ways. Lucky men find a woman that they can love in two of these ways. The truly blessed men are those who find a woman that they can love in all three ways.

I will bring some solace to men to read and understand these to see deep within themselves and develop acceptance for their own selves.

Women will gain deep insight into men and their own role in love and sex upon reading and understanding these concepts.

1. VISUAL CONCURRENCE
   
   Because of a deeply programmed biological need to procreate successfully, men are hard-coded to seek certain physical characteristics in a female they wish to impregnate. 
   
   These characteristics are no secret, a man's hunger to visualize these characteristics feeds the multi-billion dollar pornography industry. Men hunger to hunt out, look at, and impregnate women with the following characteristics:
   
      - Large Firm Breasts
      - Child-Bearing Hips (Hour-Glass Figure) 
      - Round buttocks
      - Flat Stomach 
      - Long Legs
      - Feminine Features (long hair, beautiful face, small feet, etc.) 
   
   So powerful are these characteristics, that a man will seek them throughout their life, even after they have procreated. This gives rise to the "trophy wife" phenomena (Men also compete with each other by displaying their "perfect" female partner to other men).
   
   
2. SEXUAL RELEASE
   
   Men have a biological need to have frequent sexual intercourse with women. The longer a man goes without sexual intercourse, the more desperate they become, and they find themselves having intercourse with women who less and less fulfill their "higher" desires. Masturbation provides only temporary and incomplete relief.
   
   Prostitution, in all its forms, is solid evidence of this need.
   
   Women demonstrate a great difficulty in understanding this need, so this illustration was developed: 
   
   If you're a woman, imagine yourself in a car driving along a long stretch of a remote highway with no services (public bathrooms) for many miles. You find yourself needing desperately to urinate. The need grows and grows until you begin considering stopping the car besides the road and relieving yourself. It gets so bad you can't think about anything else, and you begin to swerve. Relieving yourself in public like that is something you'd never do, but, out of desperation, you do it -- finally bringing an end to the madness.
   
   This desire to urinate is the closest thing a woman can feel to the constant, persistent, and never-ending desire a man has for sexual intercourse with a woman. If you're a woman, and see a man making a fool of himself trying to "pick up" a woman, remember yourself on that road with your full bladder.
   
   
3. ROMANTIC LOVE
   
   Men are capable of romantic love in the same way that woman are. Click here and read item 1 for a beautiful description of this type of love.

"My husband deeply loves me and our kids, but he had sex with a co-worker when they were off on a business trip! How dare he betray me and his family in this way!?"

It's possible that since you've had your kids you've put on weight, or changed your style of dress and grooming to make yourself appear less like the ideal men seek described in item 1 above. It's possible that the female co-worker was very sexy and young and, most importantly was available for sex as described in item 2 above.

The man's infidelity was a wrong-action. However, perhaps now one can understand why it happened. Most men can easily satisfy themselves with item 1 and 2 without the need for item 3.

"I've been dating Bob for a few months now, and although he says he loves me, he's unwilling to make a commitment. What is the problem?"

You might meet the qualities of any one or two of the above items, but not the others. Bob may be seeking a relationship with all three qualities.